Do people still listen nowadays? I mean really listen?
Communication is an integral part of our lives. When we wake up, when we order at a drive-thru, when we attend meetings, and when we sleep. We talk to people, people respond to us. Who initiates is anybody’s guess. The point is there’s communication.
Yet, do we really understand how it works? Do we really know the process involved in communication? It’s easy to lose track of thinga in a fast world. Unforunately, one of the things we lose track of is communication.
Here’s the basics of communication: someone talks, the other listens, then they change positions. Talking is easy. We all have something to say. The TV industry is populated by talk shows. But has anyone attempted to create a listening show? It wouldn’t even get past the idea stage. Why? Because everyone has something to say. Everyone wants to talk. Everyone loves to talk.
But you ask someone to listen and they will exhaust every will power, every chi in their body just to do that. It’s so damn hard. I myself am guilty of this, especially in an emotionally charged encoumter. It really is so damn difficult.
And yet, it is the most important component of communication. We may have a lot to say, but for us to respond appropriately, we must digest all those things we heard. We must assimilate it in our brains and hearts. It is the only way for us to respond.
Beware though! Listening is a two way thing. If you will demand from the other person that they listen, they too have a right to demand from your listening ear. It cannot be that all you do is talk and all they do is listen. If they have something to say, you should shut up and let them talk. Otherwise it’s a haphazard exercise.
It should be emphasized that listening carries with it sincerity. It isn’t listening if you’re’ not genuine. It’s an all or none principle. There are no shades of gray here.
Listening. Are people still doing it? I hope so. Because I just experienced the opposite.